Happy February 24th!

 

It was Valentine’s Day and the love and happiness was floating around.  I received some sweets from my sweets that morning and had watched people moving about with their flowers and stuffed animals.  Everyone just a little bit happier, or better yet, giddy.  Valentines were being exchanged throughout the day and everyone was spending a little more time with that special someone.

I started my Valentine’s prepping early this year, ( I know, it still shocks me even now.) buying my kids goodies to make (hang on to your seat) HOMEMADE Valentines for their school chums!   Thank you ‘crack’terest.com.   It was a project that took a few hours , but they all got done and sent on their merry little way Valentine’s morning.

While prepping for the homemade Valentine’s, I spent about an half an hour one day in the grocery store on “supply buying day” looking for exactly what I needed so I wouldn’t have to go back. (I had to go back twice.)  When I was pursuing the greeting card aisle this is what I saw:

Well, actually, this is NOT  what I saw first, but once I was able to grab my phone (how weird does that sound) and get a quick shot without intruding.  When I started down this aisle, I saw this couple- on opposite sides of the Valentine section picking out cards.  Trying to find the perfect card for each person to say how much they loved them.   I wondered if they were picking out cards to give each other, their children, their grandchildren?  I do know that they were being very thoughtful about the process- carefully looking at the selection and smiling at those that would make it into their basket, shaking their heads at all the others.  I tried to be inconspicuous as I watched them so they wouldn’t know someone was butting in on their “Valentining”.  By the time I made it down the aisle and turned around, this is what I saw.  She looked back and smiled at him as he walked towards her with his cards.  They were done and heading out.  Happy with their choices.

I don’t think we normally hear a lot of Valentine lessons, but this year I learned one and looking back at this couple helped.  Valentine’s Day should be like every other day, or better yet- every other day should be like Valentine’s Day.  Not the cards and flowers that will get tossed at some point, but the “I love you’s”, the hugs, the kisses, or just sitting and holding hands- the things that really make your heart flutter.  This couple, while buying the cards, were giving each other one of the greatest gifts- time with each other.

Happy February 24th!

“Mom, do you think I’m too skinny?”

It hit me out of the blue, “Mom, do you think I am too skinny?”

Now, for those of you who know me, I have had a mental fight with my own weight most of my life and was determined to raise my girls and boy with self-confidence about their bodies and teaching them to take care of themselves by eating healthy and exercising.

“Not at all Julia, you are perfect!” I responded….then got on the defensive, “DID SOMEONE SAY SOMETHING TO YOU?!?!?!”  Mama BEAR was starting to come out in a big way.  “No,” she said quietly, “I was just wondering.”

Now, for those of you who know Julia, you some times have to dig deep for the words to come out.  I didn’t push it with her at this particular moment because I know how sensitive self-image can be, especially for girls.  Furthermore, I would have broken down into tears at some point and that would have totally freaked her out!

So I let it go, but it continued to eat at me.

Where did this come from?

Who said something to her?

Have I messed up somewhere?

How do I handle this if she, or Ivy, are looking at themselves in the mirror  and questioning being “too” much of anything?

I didn’t have any answers.

I still don’t have the answers.  I’ve struggled with writing this one for about a week now.  She hasn’t brought it up again.  Maybe I should just let it go.

Anyone?