It hit me out of the blue, “Mom, do you think I am too skinny?”
Now, for those of you who know me, I have had a mental fight with my own weight most of my life and was determined to raise my girls and boy with self-confidence about their bodies and teaching them to take care of themselves by eating healthy and exercising.
“Not at all Julia, you are perfect!” I responded….then got on the defensive, “DID SOMEONE SAY SOMETHING TO YOU?!?!?!” Mama BEAR was starting to come out in a big way. “No,” she said quietly, “I was just wondering.”
Now, for those of you who know Julia, you some times have to dig deep for the words to come out. I didn’t push it with her at this particular moment because I know how sensitive self-image can be, especially for girls. Furthermore, I would have broken down into tears at some point and that would have totally freaked her out!
So I let it go, but it continued to eat at me.
Where did this come from?
Who said something to her?
Have I messed up somewhere?
How do I handle this if she, or Ivy, are looking at themselves in the mirror and questioning being “too” much of anything?
I didn’t have any answers.
I still don’t have the answers. I’ve struggled with writing this one for about a week now. She hasn’t brought it up again. Maybe I should just let it go.